Working moms are superwomen. If you think getting out of bed and going to work is difficult, imagine getting out of bed, dressing and feeding a child, distracting the child for long enough to feed and change yourself, packing their lunch, and hopefully your lunch, taking them to school, and still commuting to work (which for me happens to be an hour away in NYC). Oh and don’t forget to feed the cats, turn off the lights, lower the thermostat, grab an umbrella, etc. I seriously lose my mind every morning!
Then it gets better. You work all day while still making mental lists of what needs to be done when you get home. Did you defrost the meat? Shit. Did you turn off the straightening iron? The bottom line is multi-tasking is crucial, but if you are a parent it’s part of your life. You have to schedule that doctor appointment, check with the babysitter to see how the child is doing, schedule your own appointments, plan the week’s activities, etc. Don’t forget to focus at work!
The work day comes to an end and you rush home. Luckily, my fiancé gets out of work first and is able to pick up our son from school. Once you’re home there is a list of things that need to be done: change out of your work clothes, cook dinner, feed the child, etc. At this point it’s already bedtime. Bedtime routine, bath, change, read, sing, and kiss goodnight. Finally… the moment you’ve been waiting for. Now you have time to yourself which means you might have time to clean up, shower, and make lunches for the morning. Maybe you have time to work out if you have the energy or maybe you have time to just SIT down. Then you go to sleep. Ah, sleep. What a novelty. You might be able to sleep soundly, or you might be woken up every few hours by your little people. You never know, but either way you have to be ready to do it all over again the next day.
This is all wrong. The days are flying by. We see our children for two hours a day at most and those two hours are rarely dedicated to them. Some days we are exhausted and overwhelmed. Kids are desperate and want our attention (and in many cases acting out for it) but we have no time! No time to be with this little life that you created and love so much. THIS sucks.
How can I be fully present at home when work takes up SO much of my time? This isn’t just my problem. This is a problem that most people, especially parents, face.
We are not meant to spend more time at work than with family. Who said that a forty+ hour work week would benefit anyone? This has to be hurting our children and families. I’m sorry, but I don’t see the point of it all. And it only gets clearer and clearer to me as my family grows and time goes on. It’s like the universe is telling me that I am not supposed to live this way. Does anyone else feel it? I am only in my twenties! My ‘career’ has just ‘just begun’ as they say. And I can tell that I am already over it and am so ready to set things straight.
Balance. It’s what comes to mind. How do we accomplish the balance between work (which is what we need to do to make a living) and family (which is what our soul needs). Is it even possible? I am still trying to figure it out. In the meantime, I will continue to be superwoman.